June 21st, 2013, 12:50 pm
Pick Up Lines
NM_eipuru, June 22nd, 2013, 11:18 pm
Hello! Long time reader. Sorry I don't comment very often. I would like to put my two cents in here and say that personally, as a young woman in a small city, I prefer to just be left alone. I dress and carry myself in a way that often encourages people to just f*** off, and I do it on purpose, because as a young woman in this particular small city, male attention usually is a precursor to something more. The young men here are very entitled and think that they are owed sex, even if they just so much as hold a door open for a strange woman. If a young lady is approached, the man usually is crude, rude, and utterly horrible, even to the point of following the young lady around through the store.
I learned this lesson when I was sixteen. I walked three blocks to a McDonald's, covered from neck to toe with a dress, opaque tights, and boots. It wasn't like anyone could see anything. Every last item on me was a dark color and opaque. Still, a car pulled up beside me on the road and asked how much I was "selling" for. Did they leave it at that? No. They pulled in the next alley, blocking my way, and continued to yell and harass me. They even tried to come into the car dealership (where I ran, in fear, to get some help because I'd never been harassed like that before). Thankfully the man there knew me and my family and ran them off, but the point of my little anecdote is that, for me, I'd really rather just be left alone. Sexual harassment and assault are very common in this place. A young lady here has every reason to fear male attention. They will follow us, block us, continue to harass us. They even followed someone into the bathroom when she blew off his pick-up lines and comments.
A pick-up line should not be that crude. Silly, funny, complimentary, even cheesy, but not crude. And if the woman does not respond or responds badly, then people need to leave her alone. Don't follow her. Don't continue to harass her.
That happens too much here.
Anyway, sorry for the long comment! I really love your comic and often refer others to it. Cats always make things better for me!
Saskyou, June 23rd, 2013, 5:11 pm
@NM_eipuru: As a man I see that the real problem is not with the pick-up lines and trying to "pick up women", but the whole mindset of "picking up women".
I sometimes wish that these people would get objectified once or twice to learn how it feels... Eh, most jerks probably wouldn't mind